{"id":6370,"date":"2025-07-21T12:32:00","date_gmt":"2025-07-21T10:32:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/bibliotheek\/grief-following-an-eye-removal\/"},"modified":"2026-09-09T17:15:53","modified_gmt":"2026-09-09T15:15:53","slug":"grief-following-an-eye-removal","status":"publish","type":"library_pt","link":"https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/en\/library\/mental-and-social-challenges\/grief-following-an-eye-removal\/","title":{"rendered":"Grief Following an Eye Removal"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-post-date\"><time datetime=\"2025-07-21T12:32:00+02:00\">21 July 2025<\/time><\/div>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Poem<\/h2>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>Sadness<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>It&#8217;s part of who we are<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>as that which is necessary<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>but unwanted<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>It&#8217;s following us<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>unsolicited<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>like a shadow<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>It&#8217;s no longer<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>than the flip side of happiness<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>the same image<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>in a different light<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Stef Bos<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Useful Links<\/h2>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">On <a href=\"https:\/\/levendverlies.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">this site<\/a>, you can find all kinds of information about a form of grief called &#8220;living loss.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>You can get started on your own with Therapieland&#8217;s <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vgz.nl\/gezond-leven\/mentale-gezondheid\/therapieland\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">online programs<\/a>.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Books, podcasts, and articles<\/h2>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Books, articles, and podcasts by Manu Keirse can be helpful during the grieving process:<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologie.nl\/artikel\/manu-keirse-rouw-gaat-liefde\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Interview<\/a><br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bol.com\/nl\/nl\/b\/boeken-manu-keirse\/531210+8299\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Books<\/a><br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/ikmisje.eo.nl\/artikel\/podcast-manu-keirse\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Podcast<\/a><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What can help you cope with the loss of your eye?<\/h2>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Writing<\/strong> with pen and paper can really help. Write down what you&#8217;re feeling and thinking. That way, you&#8217;ll learn to understand yourself better.  <\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Music<\/strong> can also be a source of comfort. It helps us express our emotions. A beautiful and fitting song is <em>&#8220;Bright Eyes<\/em> &#8221; by Art Garfunkel.  <\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sometimes it&#8217;s enough to <strong>just let yourself feel your feelings<\/strong>. It&#8217;s okay to be angry, scared, or sad. Don&#8217;t fight those feelings\u2014just let them be. This idea comes from <strong>mindfulness<\/strong>.   <\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Exercise<\/strong> is also a good way to cope with emotions, especially when it&#8217;s hard to talk. Try going for a walk, dancing, or playing sports. <\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Two Ways of Grieving<\/h2>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">People grieve in different ways in everyday life: This can make it difficult to come to terms with loss and to understand one another. Below, we explain two ways of grieving using an illustration by Stroebe and Schut (1998): <\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/WhatsApp-Image-2020-10-23-at-16.01.17.jpeg-1024x1024.webp\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-3245\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/WhatsApp-Image-2020-10-23-at-16.01.17.jpeg-1024x1024.webp 1024w, https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/WhatsApp-Image-2020-10-23-at-16.01.17.jpeg-300x300.webp 300w, https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/WhatsApp-Image-2020-10-23-at-16.01.17.jpeg-150x150.webp 150w, https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/WhatsApp-Image-2020-10-23-at-16.01.17.jpeg-768x768.webp 768w, https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/WhatsApp-Image-2020-10-23-at-16.01.17.jpeg-1536x1536.webp 1536w, https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/WhatsApp-Image-2020-10-23-at-16.01.17.jpeg-1140x1140.webp 1140w, https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/WhatsApp-Image-2020-10-23-at-16.01.17.jpeg-1000x1000.webp 1000w, https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/WhatsApp-Image-2020-10-23-at-16.01.17.jpeg-535x535.webp 535w, https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/WhatsApp-Image-2020-10-23-at-16.01.17.jpeg-360x360.webp 360w, https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/WhatsApp-Image-2020-10-23-at-16.01.17.jpeg-270x270.webp 270w, https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/WhatsApp-Image-2020-10-23-at-16.01.17.jpeg-124x124.webp 124w, https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/WhatsApp-Image-2020-10-23-at-16.01.17.jpeg-55x55.webp 55w, https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/WhatsApp-Image-2020-10-23-at-16.01.17.jpeg-817x817.webp 817w, https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/WhatsApp-Image-2020-10-23-at-16.01.17.jpeg.webp 1600w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Rita Verduin&#8217;s Blog<\/h2>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It\u2019s already been 10 years since I lost sight in one eye due to an ocular infarction. Most of the time, I don\u2019t even notice it anymore. I do everything I want with my remaining eye\u2014even skiing, where I whiz down the slopes at speeds of up to 80 kilometers per hour. This year we haven\u2019t had much luck with the weather\u2014it\u2019s cloudy and often foggy. Skiing in fog is pure hell for me. All I see is a white haze; I panic, and my technique goes out the window. For me, the panic triggers a recurring pain stemming from loss. It might not even be the loss of my eye itself, but rather the feeling of helplessness that overwhelmed me when my right eye suddenly went black.         <a href=\"https:\/\/runningrita.nl\/terugkerende-pijn-vanwege-verlies\/\" target=\"_blank\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"https:\/\/runningrita.nl\/terugkerende-pijn-vanwege-verlies\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Continue reading the blog.<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Below you will find several links to information about coping with grief after an eye removal. 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