{"id":6294,"date":"2025-07-21T11:17:00","date_gmt":"2025-07-21T09:17:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/bibliotheek\/grieving-is-a-back-and-forth-process\/"},"modified":"2026-09-09T17:13:30","modified_gmt":"2026-09-09T15:13:30","slug":"grieving-is-a-back-and-forth-process","status":"publish","type":"library_pt","link":"https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/en\/library\/living-with-an-eye-prosthesis\/grieving-is-a-back-and-forth-process\/","title":{"rendered":"Grieving is a back-and-forth process"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-post-date\"><time datetime=\"2025-07-21T11:17:00+02:00\">21 July 2025<\/time><\/div>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Have you been struggling with problems with your eye for years, leading to its removal\u2014a process that caused you a great deal of stress and anxiety? Or did you lose your eye in an accident? Everyone\u2019s experience is different, and everyone reacts differently. Some people panic and don\u2019t know what to do. Others try to move on with life as quickly as possible. It\u2019s important that you understand and acknowledge your entire story. It\u2019s okay to feel the loss. It\u2019s not just a passing moment\u2014it remains a part of your life.       <\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Grief can sometimes take a long time. Sometimes it never completely goes away. That\u2019s okay. You don\u2019t always have to \u201cfix\u201d it. You don\u2019t have to go to therapy if you don\u2019t need to. A good friend, a coworker, or the people around you can also provide a lot of support.     <\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Working Toward Recovery<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ideas about grief look at it from two perspectives: the loss and what gives you energy again. Both perspectives are important. Grieving isn\u2019t just about being sad or crying. It\u2019s also about reflecting on: How do I move forward from here? How do I shape my life with only one eye? How do I cope with setbacks? You have to reinvent yourself, so to speak. We sometimes forget that working toward recovery is also part of the grieving process.         <\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">People grieve in different ways. This can make it difficult to come to terms with loss and to understand one another. Below, we explain two ways of grieving: the intuitive and the instrumental styles of grieving.  <\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Intuitive or loss-focused style<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">People with an intuitive grieving style are primarily focused on their feelings. They like to talk about their grief and show their emotions. They often go through longer periods during which they feel very sad. At first, they mainly feel the pain of the loss. Only later do they realize that they also need to take care of others or make arrangements. What people with this grieving style can learn from the other style is that it\u2019s sometimes better to look for solutions as well. That way, you\u2019re less focused on your feelings and more on what needs to be done.      <\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Instrumental or restorative style<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">People with a<strong> <\/strong>instrumental grief style<strong> <\/strong>They tend to think things through in their heads and try to understand their grief rationally. When grieving, they often take a practical and solution-oriented approach. They want to take care of everything properly and ensure that life goes on. They don\u2019t readily talk about their feelings and usually feel less of a need to do so. If they do show their grief, they prefer to do so alone or in a familiar setting.    <\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">These people sometimes experience brief moments of sadness or confusion. They may also feel powerless. For example, when their partner is still very sad, while they are doing their best to move on. What they can learn from the other style of grieving is that it\u2019s okay to take time for their own feelings as well. Sadness is valid, and it\u2019s important to acknowledge it sometimes.    <\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Want to read more?<\/h2>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">On <a href=\"\/?bibliotheek=rouw-na-een-oogverwijdering\" data-type=\"library_pt\" data-id=\"3025\">this page, Afke has<\/a>posted more information about grieving. This includes a blog by Rita Verduin, tips on how to cope with the loss of an eye, and references to books, a podcast, and websites.    <\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Losing an eye is a life-changing experience for anyone. When we think of loss and grief, we often think of losing a loved one. But loss is much broader than that. When you lose something that was incredibly important to you\u2014something that changes your life\u2014you can grieve deeply. So you can also grieve the loss of your eye. New experiences can bring that pain back.     <\/p>\n","protected":false},"featured_media":6295,"template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_daextauttol_enable_tooltips":""},"library_cat":[118,119],"class_list":["post-6294","library_pt","type-library_pt","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","library_cat-living-with-an-eye-prosthesis","library_cat-mental-and-social-challenges"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/library_pt\/6294","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/library_pt"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/library_pt"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6295"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6294"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"library_cat","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ver-ooginoog.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/library_cat?post=6294"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}